Taboo conversations and the 21st Century Society : Tribalism

My brother and I break out in jestful laughter as my mom, for what feels like the millionth time, tells us how she and her siblings were out to buy breakfast during the 1982 coup in Kenya.  We laugh cause we know what she will say to the last word. She always tells it so passionately, how they were going out to get bread and milk only to run into a drunk AirForce soldier wielding a gun and threatening to shoot them if they don’t go back to the house immediately. It is for this reason that we always have to watch the news in our house, lest something happens again and this time the drunk soldier keeps his word.

I never quite understood how deeply it affected her till I did the math.  It has been 35 years and she still remembers it literally like it was yesterday.  Isn’t that enough time to forget? I would think so but that is only because I have not gone through anything closely traumatic to that. Where am I going with this??

Only 7 days ago, Kenya went to the polls to choose its leaders and we were all crossing our fingers and hoping that it is free, fair and above all PEACEFUL. We saw companies shut down in precaution and people pack up and go home to their rural homes. The busy CBD and the nightmarish traffic on major roads we experience every day disappeared. We are just being careful right? Hold on to that for a minute.

I don’t need to narrate how things went, the media has been quite clear on that plus we were all glued to screens following the results. We all have different conclusions and thoughts about what went down. I am not here blogging because of that. Truth be told, I do not affiliate myself with any party. I have not invested in political allegiances only because my reality seems not to be directly affected. I will accept it if you call it ignorance.

My concern arose when, after the announcement of the elections, we all held our breath and waited to see if history would repeat itself. The post election violence that happened in 2007 is very freshly remembered more so by people who were right in the middle of it. People died, people lost their homes, people were emotionally, physically and psychologically scarred by their fellow countrymen. Hold on to that too. I shall come back to it.

Yesterday we went back to work, those of us brave enough and at my place of work, we had the conversation on where each one of us is at after the elections. I came to agree, yes I am an ignorant observer of all things political. I watch from a distance and move on with my life. I have made no effort whatsoever on that front. I could not care less who won because I have not seen a leader worth my attention yet. Their dossiers come packed with looting experience, uncouth language, shady histories and it seems the darker it is the better we like them.

My concern is how did we end up so tribal? Admit it, we are all tribal. In our safe spaces, in those closed doors, we have said something that falls within the tribal line. It is how we have been brought up. It may not be intentional but we have stereotypes for each tribe. Heck, even our most successful comedy shows thrive on tribal jokes and stereotypes. It seems like one tribe’s win is another tribe’s loss. Marriage is a good example of how deep the roots run. We have all heard stories of how families rejected someone’s choice simply because they are not of their tribe. We bring up kids, we ourselves were kids and we soaked up the things our people said and they became beliefs. We do not even know why we believe these things, we just do!!!!!!

Our beliefs are shaped by many things, our influences, our experiences, our environment and the culture around us to name a few.  We are a product of all these things and more. Until we accept that we have a problem we won’t solve it. Our nation has been shaped into what it is by its experiences. The colonization, the rebellion, the independence, the death of certain people, the discrimination of others in the division of power….I could go on and on but you see what I am saying. History has set us on a course that is headed for destruction if we don’t change it.

Back to my mom’s story and the 2007 one, it hit me that people have wounds that run deep. People have been affected by the different things that have happened in Kenya. You may be one of the lucky ones if it has never happened to you. We may think we are over it, but going back to the second thought I asked you to hold on to, we were all scared 2007 would happen again. It means we are not over it, in fact, we were all afraid it would happen all over again that we locked ourselves up and stocked up on food to increase survival chances if things went bad. Really? Yes, we did that.

Can we understand that we experience different things differently?

Can we accept that we have been hurt and we carry prejudices knowingly and unknowingly because we never healed?

Can we accept that healing is a grueling process that needs Vulnerability, Openness, Trust, Acceptance, and Forgiveness??? 

Can we accept that it needs time and that the best time to start is now?

Countries such as Rwanda have experienced what ethnic tensions can do to a nation. It starts simply and escalates into a genocide. It does not happen in a day, it happens over years. The original perpetrators may not even be alive to see the damage happen but it still spills over to generations.



There have been injustices, gross misconduct and hideous crimes against Kenya. Justice is important. That is why we have the arms of the government which sometimes, actually most times seem to fail us miserably when we need them most. I cannot refute that fact, it pains me every day that we entrust our country to people who seem not to see the importance of their role.

All I have been trying to say this whole time is that we Kenyans are bigger than one or two leaders. Killing each other will not sort out the leadership or economic problems we have. We have seen it in other countries, we have seen it here at home. No good came out of it. It only escalated things to a worse degree any way you look at it.

Reconciliation should be accompanied by justice, otherwise, it will not last. While we all hope for peace it shouldn’t be peace at any cost but peace based on principle, on justice.

Corazon Aquino 

Let us seek justice the right way. An eye for an eye will leave the whole country blind.

We are bigger than a presidential seat, we are bigger than tribe, we are bigger than the place we come from or the language we speak.

We need to come together as a nation, each and every one of us and take responsibility for where we are heading.

Speak Peace.

Act Peacefully

Use your words to speak life.

Do your part in safeguarding Kenya the nation.

We begins with Me and You.

I shall do my part, will you do yours??










We Were Made For More!!

The biggest human temptation is to settle for too little, Thomas Merton

Growing up certainly came with its own perks and shocks, some that no one ever prepared us for. For a big chunk of our life, we watched as adults went about looking like they had it all together and we could not wait to grow up and lose our childish confusion about life.

Adults know everything, right? Wrong. I personally found out that they don’t, they just go about life acting like they do. Anyway, we got through primary school, high school and on campus, we got the freedom we always craved. Unfortunately, no one told us that with freedom comes a big monster called RESPONSIBILITY.

Your campus lecturer doesn’t care if you come to class or not, if you take your cat or not and if you sit for your exams or not, that’s your decision. Your parent will give you money and expect you to make decisions on how best to spend it. Yow! Uber cool. You graduate and realize, no your mom will not tarmac for you like they did searching for a nice high school for you. You have to get your papers in order and search for your next move.

The weight of just our own lives is so heavy at first. Realizing that with the searched freedom came the burden of providing for yourself. And sometimes this ‘yourself” is misbehaved, spends money too carelessly or even ends up in debt. You earn a salary and now you have to manage your expenses and try to save while living a life you enjoy. Good luck with this economy.

First, you get a new job and you are excited that now when you meet people on the street and they ask you ” what are you up to now?” , you actually have an answer!! Halleluya! Now you can claim you are doing something with your life, oh sweet. No sooner had you finished getting acquainted with where the kitchen is and settling into the office, RESPONSIBILITY kicks in with your monthly check. After all, you knew you went to school as a retirement plan for your parents. Now they can rest, you have made it. Or so it seems.

You move out and get your own place because the commute is shorter, or you just need your own space or maybe just cause that’s what adults do. You also get a new wardrobe because hey! Impressions to make. Furnish the house to make it home and buy the millennial essentials of a house. Pimp my crib style. You buy your own food and get to hang out in these new joints that people do. You know having coffee at Java and Art Caffe to catch up with friends and all that. You’re treating of course since you balling now.

No one told you that the bank account needs to correspond with your spending. Or that money doesn’t last till end month if you spend it all before then. Wait what is a budget again? You look at your bank account and the number of zeros has reduced.

no more thousand

No one told you to find a job you are passionate about and invest your time in it. No, they said finish your degree and get a job. And it’s slowly taking the life out of you. Do I even have a passion you wonder? Is money my passion? Would anyone pay me for doing something I am passionate about? You drag yourself out of bed cause that rent won’t pay itself.

work sucks


I have not even started on the dating and the implications of that on your pocket. Assuming you are in a happy relationship because you end up realizing that those soap operas we watched as a kid set us up for failure!!!!!  The insurance, the taxation, the pension plans, the pressure to outperform each other, the pressure to be rich in your twenties, the pressure to be at happening places, the pressure of social media lives.

You come to a conclusion. It was a conspiracy. It was a ploy.  They lied to us. The freedom was not fun. It was not just games and a good time. Adulting is hard.


I know that is just a vague picture of what you are going through but you see what I mean. It’s so easy to settle for less than what we should do in this life because it is already hard enough already as it is.

It’s so easy to forget God and His desire for our lives and get caught up in this hamster wheel that is life.  It is so easy to settle for less than God’s best for us because we don’t always feel like taking responsibility for our behavior or putting forth some effort to do what we need to do so we can accomplish great things for God and help people. But the cost of settling for less is actually harder than being completely obedient to God’s will.

Wait, what is God’s will for my life? How do I even find that out?  How does that make my life better? Those are all very important questions that I will try to answer in a few note points: (at this point  I am beginning to feel like this is too long a post but anyway)

  • Walk with God (Proverbs 3:4-5) 

The thing about Christianity is that it is not about religion and religious practices. It is about having a relationship with a God who seeks to dwell with his people and spin out a great story for them. The more you get to know him, the easier it becomes to please him. Just as you would a friend, invest time and seek Him for He says you will find Him. He will reveal his plans for your life to you, yes to you! Imagine that.

Trust in the Lord with all your heart
    and lean not on your own understanding;
in all your ways submit to him,
    and he will make your paths straight

  • Surrender your will to God (Jer 29:11)

God letting you know His will for you is one thing, you surrendering your will is another. You must be willing to submit to His plan when He makes it known to you. Sometimes we make our own plans and expect God to stamp them off in agreement. It doesn’t work that way. He leads we follow.  He knows what is best for us.

11 For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.


  • Obey what you already know to be God’s will (2nd Tim 3:16)

At times we find ourselves doing things that we already know is not God’s will for us. He has stated what pleases Him in His word. The Bible serves to let us know God more and His will for us. For example, the Ten Commandments layout that stealing, killing, fornication, adultery, coveting are all against God’s will.  Remember my friend analogy, it is easier to not cross your friend if you know them well. You won’t do things that will anger them or make them unhappy. At least you will make an effort.

16 All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness

  •  Find out what your gifts are (1 Peter 4:10)

Take a look at your circumstances. If you are 4 feet 5 inches, professional basketball might not be the thing you were made for. If you move with two left feet, then professional dancing is definitely not the thing. We were all made uniquely and different, suited for our life’s purpose. The things you easily do and are passionate about may be an inclination of what you should do with your life.

10 Each of you should use whatever gift you have received to serve others, as faithful stewards of God’s grace in its various forms.


  • Listen to God’s spirit and your heart (John 10: 27)

Prayer is a two-way process. You talk to God and He talks to you. It is important to learn to be quiet when praying and hear what God has to say.

27 My sheep listen to my voice; I know them, and they follow me.

Delight yourself also in the LORD, and He shall give you the desires of your heart. 5 Commit your way to the LORD, trust also in Him, and He shall bring it to pass. This verse lets us know that He will let you do the things you desire to do. He will continually shape your heart to enable you to desire the things He wills for you.


I may not have given you a million dollar cheque to help ease your life or helped sort out that messy relationship or get out of that dead end job. However it is my hope as you get to know God and know His will for your life, He will get you to a place where you can do life knowing God has your back. Trust me, it may not get any easier on the outside, but it definitely becomes easier to do life from the inside.



Put On Your Faith Glasses!

I’m seated on my bed busy transcribing an audio when a thought hits me. I’m not kidding my brain felt hit as I tried to wrap it around the fact that I’m using the internet which is being sourced from my phone by just turning on a button that says ‘Hotspot’. My laptop has more memory than I do since it only needed the password once and it will forever remember unless I choose the ‘Not now’ or ‘Never remember password’ options. I’m I the only one feeling really dumb right now??  Also don’t try to wrap your brain around anything, it wasn’t meant for such things. I was there like


Relax, I’m going somewhere with this.As one Chippo Baraka would probably say, that was a #RandomParagraphToConfuseMyEnemies. The thing I realised from that little weird scenario is that, the only reason I simply cannot comprehend the concept of WiFi and by extent Matter yaani ile ya Physics, is because I cannot SEE it. I understand water, I understand a phone because I can see wires, I understand anything I can see. However my brain does a flip when I cannot see things. Isn’t that the source of fear? Not seeing what’s in the dark? What’s in the future? Certainty? Clarity? Isn’t it the source of that big green ugly monster called jealousy? Not seeing in yourself what you see in another? Isn’t it the source of failure? Not seeing potential in yourself? Need I continue?


Hebrews 11:1 Now faith is confidence in what we hope for and assurance about what we do not see.

It’s the same thing on this Christian walk. You haven’t seen God with your eyes but you believe by faith. It is the essence of your walk. It is the confidence you have that surely the sun must rise in the East and set in the West. It’s that surety that you have that North is North and the oceans are salty. Never is there a day you doubt that the sun is up. That’s the same confidence you should have in God, if not more! He is the Creator of all things and if you can have faith in the creation, surely how much more in the Creator??

I wasn’t planning on this one but some small things like how we can microwave food and share things like blog posts on social media remind me that God is greater than my mind can comprehend and more than my eyes can see.

So quit trying to do life with your bad eyesight and put on your FAITH GLASSES!!!!

Have Confidence in what you hope for! Assurance in what you can’t see, YET!



Wanna dance?

So, it’s one of those random Mondays and I’m chill on the carpet with very little brain work going on. My sister is busy enjoying her new found love for spices in the kitchen and my mum is busy reading her snippet of 40 days of purpose by Rick Warren. Mind you, she has read that book for the longest time and I’m like “Mummy, utasoma hiyo kitabu 2016 yote!”, she laughs and makes it worse by saying how she really just does a random day and not in the order.


Now, let me break it down. People’s lives are governed by many things. There has to be something that tips your happy or sad meter. My governor is my Fam. I mean we are full of drama more than the Kardashians. You wake up to arguments over who has who’s charger and how who did what in the am. It is literally music to my ears. Like my nephew screaming how we have hidden the shoe brush even though he’s the only one who does shoe polishing. Hilarious I tell you.

Anyway let’s get on with it; it is there on that carpet that I remembered a worship night we went to with my cohort of girlfriends. I might start saying mushy things about these girls but I will not. I personally must attend ICC worship night every first Friday of the month and Mavuno Downtown every third Friday of the month. They have made it easy to connect and worship God with a sincere and open heart. To enjoy and just find rest and happiness in His presence after doing hectic weeks of this earth. Enough with my worship night endorsements.
It’s the end of May, June is here and soon half the year will be gone. I remembered the worship night we had the beginning of the year and how we made declarations of what we want God to do for us. Hahahahha!!!! Did they just say we can send our To-do list? Some angels might end up like this


Ambition is priceless but then more worthy is faith. My list was ridiculous but not in one bit impossible. We wrote five things on paper (yes we needed a limit lest refer to above image)and put them all together. It was beautiful to be honest seeing people submit their prayers and petitions to God together in faith. It looked something like this.

prayer wall

Of course this is too organised for Kenyans but you get the idea right? Good.Fast forward five months down the line, I might be tempted to say my list probably has not gotten to the right person. It is like it got lost in the prayer mail or my angel on duty is running late which is pretty sad given how I’ve worked on my punctuality lately.

Fortunately, knowledge dispels many things including stupidity in this case. I honestly felt like 2016 will be an amazing year! Completely amazing! Then its not been as amazing. Its been trying but then full of little glimpses of extreme beauty.Maybe it can still be really amazing, six months is enough time for a turn around.
Have you ever watched a storm form? Especially over the coast? One of this fine days as you Youtube funny videos try and see the process. It begins with a certain cool breeze and you see the sky turning different shades that you don’t normally see. Its beautiful until it becomes big and wild with the wind thrashing in your face and the raindrops pelting your skin like armored water bullets. The thunder serves to only add fear and lighting spreads threat across the already dark sky. Think about it. If you watch a storm happening without the sound, it actually reduces the intensity of what is happening.


This is how life gets sometimes. It’s a beautiful day with things going well and then all over sudden its becoming a bit chilly. The sky is getting cloudy, someone you love takes ill, you lose someone important, you are broke majorly, heck you thought you had lost a bad habit only to find out it’s still very much with you *insert all those situations that bring you down including simple boredom or insomnia*


Soon it’s raining and you cannot even comprehend how it got that bad and before you can even figure that out, your fear of drowning is already numbing your survival reflexes. Just as suddenly as it started, it slows down. The rain is falling softly now, as if to nurture and promote growth. The wind calms down and plays a soothing tune. The sun peeks out and forms an alliance with the rain to make you smile over the wonder of the rainbow. Nature sings a song and dances over you.


Psalms 89:8-9 (Amplified Bible)

O Lord God of hosts, who is like You, O mighty Lord?
Your faithfulness surrounds You [as an intrinsic, unchangeable part of Your very being]. You rule the swelling of the sea;
When its waves rise, You still them

I am convinced that God cares for us. Infinitely and without measure. He cares for each one of us as a father would His sons. he rules over everything and works out things for our good. As Travis Greene sang, Hes intentional and never failing. The storm drenches the dry land. Soaks it up, refreshes the land, The wind scatters the seed to far lands for growth and the light to facilitate growth. Germination does not happen without light.

Forgive my analogy if it’s a bit far fetched, but more or less, its in those stormy seasons that our lives morph into beauty. we begin to see the different aspects that we ignored. We begin to savor the little things and even when the storm is over, we have grown into better versions of ourselves.

The best thing about it, is better things are coming. I am sure. be encouraged ! Dance in the rain, let the wind blow on your skin and whistle in your ear, let the rain moisturise your skin and wash away your sorrows. Let light come in and  find a lighter you!



Do yourself a favor, and dance in the rain!!!!! I know I am 🙂

With love as always, Jo.



Dare to Dream

Have you ever had a friend so awesome you want them to be just yours? Imagine you know the President; you have been best friends from day one. You know back then when you guys called him Uhunye. You were buddies so much that you read his first letter to his crush and laughed at how silly it was. He keeps telling you dreams of grandeur about how he will be a great diplomat and rise to the greatest seat in the country. He effortlessly wields his authority on the household as you play ‘cha baba cha mama’. Hilarious right?
I mean, I know of a guy who was born into a family where his dad had two wives. Yurp! Two, as if one isn’t enough to handle. That’s where all the problems stem from. Polygamy is a recipe for disaster since most men are not great multitaskers. He marries two sisters (I know it gets worse still) one by trickery and one for love. I’m leaving out a lot of juicy stories but bear with me. The elder sister Leah is married off to Jacob because in their tradition, you cannot marry the younger sister before the older one is married. Rachel is barren and Leah gives birth effortlessly so by the time our star Joseph is born, he has 11 step brothers.
The dad plays favorites and dots on Joseph much to the envy of the other brothers. It doesn’t end there, Joseph starts getting dreams that he will rule over his family. Hold up, the favor must have gotten into his head right? Even his dad doesn’t seem convinced though he puts it to mind. The brothers however turn the darkest shade of green with jealousy. So they do what we normally do when we sense someone claims they are meant for greatness, they hate on him. It’s so bad that they plan to ‘fake’ his death and plot to sell him into slavery. They tell his father that he was mauled to death by some animal and they found his lovely coat of colors bloody and torn. He is mourned and life goes on, and we claim to have family drama. I bet it’s nothing close to this.
Long story short, your friend Uhunye is president and Joseph ends up being a ruler in Egypt and by extension over his family just as his dreams had predicted. This is despite everyone who thought they couldn’t do it. We can all admit at one time or another we looked at what our friends want to achieve and chose to be very pessimistic. Choice, we choose to see the impossibility of other people’s dreams and in that, kill our own.
“One great enemy we must all endeavor to fear not conquering is fear. Fear can cripple purpose and purposeful life. Fear asks questions we must fear. Fear makes vision a nightmare. One must always cross the barrier of fear to get to the great city of true purposefulness. A great number of us who are unable to live to accomplish the true reason for our existence on earth are unable to cross the barrier of fear in the first place.”
What do you daydream about? I’m not talking about small sleepy musings just after a huge plate of ugali; I mean ridiculously incredible dreams that can change the world. The kind that you see as a possibility laced into struggle, with a promise of blood, sweat and tears. The kind you share with people and they cannot really quite see the marvelous vision that resides in your head.
However, the fear, of anything that can be feared, threatens to kill your dream. We kill other people’s morale and fill each other with fear. My two examples do not say much, only to make you think, research, seek out great people and see that they became great AGAINST ODDS.

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same
Each one of us, beloved, was meant for greatness. You, yes you, with our weaknesses, your past, your present, no matter how bleak it seems, was MEANT FOR GREATNESS. You will never know till you try.
So, Go out and Dare to Dream.

The Gift

“It would seem that Our Lord finds our desires not too strong, but too weak. We are half-hearted creatures, fooling about with drink and sex and ambition when infinite joy is offered us, like an ignorant child who wants to go on making mud pies in a slum because he cannot imagine what is meant by the offer of a holiday at the sea. We are far too easily pleased.”
― C.S. Lewis, the Weight of Glory and other Addresses

My nephew grew up with us in the house surrounded by enough oestrogen to turn you into  a girl. Believe me, he almost did.


#TBT this was in 2013 we were trying friendly tactics, befriend the enemy

Needless to say that when a woman is looking good and making things work it has a certain allure. This just meant I had to deal with my shoes getting worn when Im away, by worn I mean tiny feet in my size 6 heels dragging them out in the dirt. They  literally would be worn out. Of Course my earrings always got a makeover into unwearables and at times were taken  hostage and seemingly executed because no ransom calls came in.

Needless to say I had a lot of this going on


I  know what you are all thinking. Look atchyuuuu!! I am no different. I whooped that child and made him count what each cane was for. He promised to not touch my stuff and we finally got it sorted now at the age of 9. Its been a long journey. Initially Id feel loss which was genuine and called for,and work up a tab where I would count the value of all my stuff that had been spoilt. Eventually it hit me that he is just a child and knows no better. He will know better when he is of age and all i can do is erase his debt while he still knows nothing of it.


Likewise we are like children to a father, who saw our great capacity for sin, our disposition to disobey and knew that we would perish unless He intervened. How would that be possible without contradicting His character? He is a just God and we would need an atonement for sin. His son became man such that he would be a perfect man and God with the power to beat death. In that way He was the perfect one to repent on our behalf.

A roman cross, yes Jesus died on that
I don’t care what you believe, read history; it’s a historical fact
So the question is what will you do with this man of misery?
Only six hours on that wood, yet it completely changed history.
What’s weird though is we’ve pimped Jesus out, made his sacrifice foolery,
We just come to church on Easter, and make his cross nice jewellery.
The cross though wasn’t a symbol of faith; it was a symbol of death,
I mean imagine if someone wore an electric chair around their neck?
So we have to ask what was different about that man on that day,
That could turn an instrument of death, to something that saves?
See His cross is unique, because He was innocent,
God actually became a man?! Now that is different.
So on the cross he says I’m not dying because of me, I’m dying because of you,
Not just for your sins of the past, but for the ones you will do.
See on the cross God treated Jesus like He was us,
Poured out his wrath on the son, so He might show He’s just.
He took all your filth; he took all your sin,
The beauty is when you trust in Jesus, you were included in him

But first, walk with me what it must have been like that night,
When the son of God looked like He lost the fight,
no breath, no heartbeat, no sign of life,
God tasted death, and it didn’t feel right.

Have you ever let that sink in, that God died?
No, really, God actually died.

and on the third day He rose.

This Easter we have all seen posts from far and wide remembering the great sacrifice that happened. We all seem to be  thankful that Judas gave us a holiday and we take a long break from whatever we normally do on Fridays and Mondays. Given how the work culture of Kenya is growing and working, most of you need that break.

1 John 4:10
This is love: not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins.

Question is, do you realise what a gift you have been given?? Your sin past,present and future are forgiven. The union between man and God that was lost when Adam and Eve sinned is restored. However, in this whole story, we need to choose Jesus. He hang on that cross as an act of love

Romans 5:8
But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.

We have been gifted. All of us, in equal measure. How are you receiving your gift?? in awe and happiness or with ignorance and contempt? In the words of C.S Lewis, Do not be making mud pies in the slums when you have the opportunity to have a vacation on an island beach. You have been made for eternity. Not mere mortality, but immortality all by the power of the act of the cross. Thus we live for something more beyond this earth, something beyond this world that we know of.

Let us look inward. Introspect. Search thyself. do you love God? You don’t know what that means? Think about what you would do, say, think if you loved God, and start with that.

Happy Easter!



The Art of Waiting

Patience and punctuality seemed to be my weakest virtues a while back.(I know, i move on fast, bear with me) Yes, I had to work on them inevitably after I started receiving threats that if I am more than 15 minutes late I will have a coffee date with myself. Wyclef Jean, what happened to that ‘take me as I am ‘ vibe?? Sigh. I only kept people waiting because i do not want to be the one standing around on a street corner pretending to be doing something on my phone. Which you are not since I am pretty sure you can do it in comfort of your house? Worse still, the one seated alone at a booth in a Java looking like those lonely people who have no one in their lives to eat with. Plus you keep getting asked if the seat is taken. Dear husband, you will always arrive first. Continue reading